When those things you despise most about yourself stare you in the eye, the best you can do is embrace them - wrap your arms around them. Take them in tenderly with hope for learning, growth, and - perhaps - change.
A contradictory proposition to - both - treat tenderly and want to be rid of a part of yourSelf.
They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. ~Confucius
Change does not occur in an instant. Unless you've won the lottery. Or been diagnosed with diabetes. Or lost your job.
Most of those changes - the instantaneous ones - are not the ones we'd welcome to our lives.
"They always say time changes things but you actually have to change them yourself."
-Andy Warhol, The Philosophy of Andy Warhol
Change doesn't occur in a vacuum. You can "do it" by yourself, but you still have to consider those around you and you still have to participate in life.
Sharing it
and
saying it
are half the battle
The load becomes lighter when you share it with others - even if it's only with words.
Habits are time consuming. Time consuming to change. But possible. Very possible.
It is our free will that allows us to choose to be something different than we are. We have the freedom to recreate and redefine ourselves.
The birds are molting. If only man could molt also - his mind once a year its errors, his heart once a year its useless passions.
- James Allen
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